“Gags are great for people who have oral fixations and those turned on by power exchange that happens when one partner consensually gives up their ability to verbally communicate,” says Taylor. Unlike collars, chokers aren’t reserved for those in committed relationships. ChokersĪround town, chokers - like this Holographic Heart Choker - may be just another type of necklace.īut Syn says, in a BDSM context, chokers are designed to signify a Dominant/submissive relationship and to create a specific physical sensation around the neck. “A posture collar is a longer, thicker collar that’s designed to encompass the neck and further restrict movement and mobility,” explains Vala Syn, professional Dominatrix and BDSM and kink educator.įor example: Strict Leather Locking Posture Collar or the Padded Locking Posture Collar with Leash. The “D” is usually capitalized to signify the power of the Dominant’s position, while the “s” is usually in lowercase. It has a Velcro closure so you can easily - and quickly! - take it off if you’re aren’t feeling it.ĭ/s is often used as shorthand to describe a relationship where someone leads (the Dominant) and someone follows (the submissive). “For submissives, it can feel emotional or even romantic to wear one,” she says.Ĭurious? Consider this Beginner Leash and Collar Set.

“They can signal that the people bestowing and wearing the collar have started a BDSM scene.”Īnd for some D/s couples, they serve a similar purpose as wedding rings: to signify a commitment to the relationship. “Collars are part of the visual accoutrement of BDSM and are worn by a submissive,” says Queen. “Make sure you can slide a finger in between the device collar and the throat to avoid damaging pressure.” Collars Safety tip: “Neck gear can fit relatively snug against the throat, but it shouldn’t be too tight,” says Queen. Many Dominants outfit their submissive’s isolation hood with earplugs, blindfolds, or a gag to intensify the level of submission.įrom aesthetically signifying “ownership” in a BDSM dynamic to restricting breathing or movement, there are a few types of neck gear. Isolation hoods are designed to block out all sound from the outside world. Typically, puppies wear hoods like this Puppy Hood with Bendable Ears or this spike Neoprene Puppy Hood. Puppy play is a subset of the BDSM community that involves some folks taking on the personality of either a primal or fun-loving puppy and others taking on the role of “owner.” Many, like this Disguise Open Mouth Hood with Padded Blindfold, restrict what the wearer can see. Some, like this Black Spandex Hood and this Rubber Slave Hood, have eyeholes.

Bondage hoodsīondage hoods (sometimes called “bondage masks”) are a type of fetish gear designed to cover the head of one person ( the submissive!). Hoods can be used for extreme sensory deprivation or to help someone get into a role for a particular scene. But don’t let it be your only research on how to use them correctly and safely.įor that, pleasure-based, queer-inclusive sex educator and sex positivity advocate Lateef Taylor recommends hiring a Dominatrix, watching A LOT of online tutorials, or going to Impact Play classes at your local sex shop. Let this guide introduce you to and teach you a bit about kinky toys you may never have heard of before. In fact, Finn says, “Because consent and safety should be top of mind with any sexual interaction, RACK is good practice to integrate for all types of sex.” Whether you consider yourself a long-time participant in the BDSM scene - or just want to dip your bits into the world of kinky sex toys - this principle should guide your use of these toys. The gist behind it is that all the participants involved in a certain sex act (sometimes called “scene”) are aware of the potential risks involved and will do what they can to mitigate those risks.

In BDSM - that’s bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism - there’s a guiding principle known as RACK, which is an acronym for risk-aware consensual kink, says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at sex toy boutique Babeland.

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